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Recommended Reading and Viewing

While there are numerous books and videos on the subject of end-of-life issues, IFC volunteers have compiled a list of those they find particularly useful. This list, ordered by topic area, will build over time.

Advance Directives | Aging | Cancer, Living and Dying with | Caregiving |Children, and Death | Covid-19 | Cremation | Deathbed Dreams and Visions | Deathbed Weddings | Death Planning | Dementia | Doulas (End of Life Midwifery) | Funerals |Film and VideoGreen Alternatives | Grief | Home Death | Hospice | Life Transitions | Medical Aid in Dying (MAID) | Medical Workers and Death | Nature| Poetry |Positive Death Movement | Protracted Dying | Race and Grief | Spirituality | Terminal Lucidity | Timing One’s Own Death | Veterans


Advance Directives


Stay in Control of Your Life and Care During a Dementia Diagnosis
National POLST honoring patients’ treatment preferences using a portable medical order.
End of Life Choices NY
Aggressive Advance Directive Permits Halting Food and Water in Severe Dementia
Your Right to Make Healthcare Decisions at www.ColoradoAdvanceDirectives.com.
A book: A Good Death: An Exploration of Dying in America
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Aging


When Life Throws You Curveballs
Vietnam Veterans Age
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Cancer, Living and Dying with

My Father’s Passport
Cancer Treatment at End of Life
When Opposites Attract, for Life
What to Say When You Meet the Angel of Death at a Party
What I Learned Photographing Death
Dying: A Memoir, by Cory Taylor.
When Breath Becomes Air
Mortality: by Christopher Hitchens. Funny.
Lady Ganga: Nilza’s Story
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Caregiving


A Guide to Understanding and Coping with Compassion Fatigue
When Opposites Attract, for Life
The Prisoners who care for the Dying and Get another chance at life
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Children and Death


What I Learned Photographing Death
I Could Face My Own Mortality, but My Son’s Was Another Story
Cry, Heart, But Never Break: A Remarkable Illustrated Meditation on Loss and Life, Glen Ringtved (author), Charlotte Pardi (illustrator) Published in February 2016, this is a great children’s book about making sense of death.
The Japanese Art of Grieving a Miscarriage by Angela Elson.
The Modern Love Podcast: Sterling K. Brown reads ‘My First Son, a Pure Memory’
Dying in Your Mother’s Arms
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Covid-19

Mourning in Place, by Edwidge Danticat
Naming the Lost Memorials
The Particular Pain of Pandemic Grief
Feeling Stuck? Five Tips for Managing Life Transitions.
Revised COVID Restrictions Affect CEOLP Cremation Ceremonies
We, Will, Need New Ways to Grieve
‘We’re Going to See What Else the Word Funeral Can Mean’ – The New York Times
My Grandmother’s Last Days Were in Our Living Room
Boom Time for Death Planning
Do Not Resuscitate
Do You Want to Die in an I.C.U.?  – The New York Times
Crestone Covid-19 from the May issue of the Crestone Eagle.
Covid or No Covid, It’s Important to Plan – The New York Times
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Cremation


Burning Out: What Really Happens Inside a Crematorium
An Alternative to Burial and Cremation Gains Popularity
Open Air, a documentary on the Crestone End of Life Projects open-air cremation site
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Deathbed Dreams and Visions


A New Vision for Dreams of the Dying
At The End Of Her Life, My Mother Started Seeing Ghosts, And It Freaked Me Out
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Deathbed Weddings


Making a Judgment on Love: When the deathbed and wedding day are one and the same, a judge with a heart makes a call for love.
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Death Planning


Dementia


Photographing the Beauty of My Mother’s Decline – The New York Times
Diagnosed with dementia
Out of Time: The un-becoming of self
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Doulas (End of Life Midwifery)


End-of-life doulas: the professionals who guide the dying
The Positive Death Movement Comes to Life
A beautiful 8-minute video about death doula Alua Arthur, who helps people prepare for death physically, mentally, and spiritually.
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Film, Video, and Podcast


CEOLP and End of Life Issues Featured in New HBO Films In mid-August, two films related to end-of-life issues, directed and produced by Perri Peltz and Matthew O’Neill (of HBO’s “Axios”), were released by HBO Documentaries. The Crestone End of Life Project and the late Aliyah Alexander are the subject of the short (13-minute) documentary, Funeral Pyre, an on-demand release for subscribers Alternate Endings (1 hr. 8 min.) can be streamed on demand for subscribers until Sept. 18, 2019 from HBO’s website. It will be aired on television on these dates: Fri. Sep 13 at 12:45 am (Mountain Time) on HBO2; Fri., Sep 27 at 1:22 am MT on HBO LATINO; and Fri., Sep 27 at 1:25 am MT on HBO.

A beautiful 8-minute video about death doula Alua Arthur, who helps people prepare for death physically, mentally, and spiritually.

Open Air, a film by Adam Sekuler about a CEOLP cremation.
At the only open-air cremation site in the United States, encircled by mountains, a torch is lit at the altar surrounded by ninety people, a family lights the fire that consumes their loved one’s body, sending billows of smoke into the blue sky of dawn. This twenty-minute video depicts Crestone’s open air cremations. Click to Purchase Open Air

PHOTOGRAPHS AND SLIDESHOW OF CEOLP CREMATION CEREMONIES
Available from Rodney Volkmar, rvolkmar@gmail.com.
Crestone resident Rodney Volkmar has created a moving series of photographs that portray the cremation ceremonies of two close friends.
Please contact Rodney for more information or authorized permission to use these images.

Slideshow of open-air Cremation in Crestone Colorado 2014 by Rodney Volkmar

The Transition, 2002 passing and open-air cremation of Laverne Howell by Rodney Volkmar

Funerals


The funeral as we know it is becoming a relic — just in time for a death boom
What Do We Do with Our Dead?
Caring for the Dead: Your Final Act of Love
Feeling bereaved and on a tight schedule? Drive-Thru Funerals Are Now a Thing in Japan
As Funeral Crowdfunding Grows, So Do the Risks 
We’re Going to See What Else the Word Funeral Can Mean’
A Family Undertaking, a documentary of a family-directed home funeral.
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Green Alternatives


The Environmental Toll of Cremating the Dead
Choosing Cremation, Rest Me in a Pine Box and Let the Fiddle Play
Natural Path Sanctuary Visit www.naturalpathsanctuary.org for information about the natural burial grounds/green cemetery located in the nature preserve.
Tennessee Natural Burial Ground Will Offer a Simpler Farewellthrough the Nature Conservancy.
Green Burials: At the End of Life, Thinking Outside the Coffin
Grave Matters
Washington becomes first state to make human composting legal
Woven coffins and not-for-profit funerals: Breathing new life into the death trade
Biodegradable burial pod turns your body into a tree
From flat-pack coffins to water cremation: How to have an eco-friendly death
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Grief


Home Death


A palliative care physician struggles with the complex realities of dying at home.
Most people want to die at home, but many land in hospitals getting unwanted care.
One Last Visit to See My Patient.
My Grandmother’s Last Days Were in Our Living Room.
Kristina’s Goodbye a YouTube video
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Hospice


The Role of Nurses when Patients Decide to their Lives
A palliative care physician struggles with the complex realities of dying at home.
When Opposites Attract, for Life
In Life’s Last Moments, Open a Window
Most people want to die at home, but many land in hospitals getting unwanted care
One Man’s Quest to Change the Way We Die About B.J. Miller, The New York Times
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Life Transitions


Medical Aid in Dying (MAID)


The State of the Medical Aid-in-Dying Debate Diane Rehm updates us in her new book, ‘When My Time Comes’
The Role of Nurses when Patients Decide to their Lives
Die like a dog: Why do we give dogs a better death than we give ourselves
Hoyahey, Today is a Good Day: A blog post by Aliyah Alexander, a Crestone, Colorado resident.
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Medical Workers and Death

Being Mortal a book by Atul Gawande.
One Last Visit to See My Patient
When Breath Becomes Air
Lady Ganga: Nilza’s Story, a documentary.
What Really Matters at the End of Life.
A palliative care physician struggles with the complex realities of dying at home, and the unintended consequences of making it a societal priority.
Dr. Kathryn Mannix, a palliative care consultant and author of With The End in Mind, explains why we should all talk about dying. (a very clear, straightforward, 4-minute video.)
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Nature


In Life’s Last Moments, Open a Window: People often imagine hospices to be dark and dismal places where there is nothing left to experience but dying. But what dominates my work
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Poetry


ANTIDOTES TO FEAR OF DEATH by Rebecca Elson
The Art of Losing: Poems of Grief and Healing and Book Of Hours

**See also the Poetry and Photography link at the bottom of the home page.
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Positive Death Movement


The Positive Death Movement Comes to Life
Outing Death: WeCroak
Five Invitations: What Death Can Teach About Living, by Frank Ostaseski
One Man’s Quest to Change the Way We Die: about B.J. Miller, The New York Times
Why millennials are the “death positive” generation
From Here to Eternity: Traveling the World to Find the Good Death
Smoke Gets In Your Eyes: And Other Tales from the Crematory
Die Wise: A Manifesto for Sanity and Soul: by Stephen Jenkinson.
The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying
What Really Matters at the End of Life.
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Protracted Dying


The Symptoms of Protracted Dying
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Race and Grief


My Brother Died and Reminded Me of These Life Lessons
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Spirituality


Eckhart Tolle, Death and the Eternal
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Terminal Lucidity


The Mystery of End-of-Life Rallies
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Timing One’s Own Death


Kristina’s Goodbye; a  YouTube video
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Veterans


Vietnam Veterans Age
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